Nope, not talking about ill fitting rash guards or a sports bra that really sucks to take on and off. I’m talking about gear that your teammate wears that makes you feel uncomfortable. For example, imagine an unknown person walks into your gym and wants to start training. The person is wearing this shirt:

keep calm and break arms

Is it possible this is the chillest person you’ll ever meet? Sure! Is it also possible that this person is a raging, spazzy white belt who will hunt for armbars and potentially injure you? Sure. Would you feel cautious around this person? Honestly, I probably would. Would your perception change based on the gender – would you feel more wary around a man wearing this than a woman?

The uncomfortable clothing I selected was intentional in its mix. Some on this list are very obvious, while others I’m sure will inspire a range of discussion ranging from “Not a problem” to “Wow that is uncomfortable.” The rash guard lined gis below, for example, would not show unless the person took off their gi.

Scenario: Imagine you are in class and a new (unknown to you) teammate walks in wearing this gear. What would your reaction be? What would your reaction be if other women or young girls were also training there?

I heart boobies mouthguard

I heart boobies mouthguard from OTM Fight Shop

I heart boobies mouthguard from OTM Fight Shop

Trust no bitch:

Trust no Bitch, from FightChix

Trust no Bitch, from FightChix – to be fair, I’m not sure if this is a t-shirt or a rashguard.

Tatami Pinup

Meerkatsu provided a nice review of this Tatami gi

Meerkatsu provided a nice review of this Tatami gi

Americana gi, rashguard lining

Platinum Gear: Angel gi

Platinum Gear: Angel board shorts

Also available as vale tudo shorts from Platinum BJJ

Also available as vale tudo shorts from Platinum BJJ

Jiu Jiu’s Question: What are your reactions to each of these items? Would they give you pause? Would they be permitted in your gym? How comfortable would you feel training in a gym where people wore these – would you invite new women to train there if that were the case?

Totally cool: saying that you’d feel comfortable or not comfortable and explaining why.
Not cool: saying “this is not a problem,” dismissing others’ opinions, telling someone they’re stupid for feeling uncomfortable, or declaring this is not a problem compared to rape, murder, or hyperbole.