A friend on Facebook posted a quote from this article called Are You as Busy as You Think?
Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.
I love the personal responsibility it puts, though – on the person, rather than on their time.
As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that time must be prioritized, and one of those priorities is health. One of the problems I had when I realized I had some choices between either watching jiu jitsu or lifting weights was that I often didn’t have time for both. I was conflicted, but ultimately health won out. Now that I can do both it’s a bigger conflict – which is a bigger priority. That kills me.
If you’re on jiu jitsu forums for any amount of time, one common thread that pops up is the question which is more important – jiu jitsu or having a life. As an older grappler, I realize that there are absolutely times that life is flat out more important than jiu jitsu. For example, in the last 2 weeks exercise has not been a priority because work is in its crunch time, and I’ve prioritized staying late and getting work done.
This idea of priorities immediately connects to this idea:
If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse. -Jim Rohn.
So that person who prioritizes their job over jiu jitsu – if they really want to do jiu jitsu, they will find a way to do it. It will have SOME priority in their lives.
What are your priorities right now? Where does BJJ rank?